Circle of control

In a world full of uncertainties, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by situations beyond our control. The Circle of Control tool provides a clear and empowering framework to help focus on what we can influence while letting go of what we cannot.

How to use the tool

• Introduce the Concept of Control
  • Use the poster to discuss examples of things we can and cannot control:
    • Out of My Control: Other people’s opinions, the weather, the past.
    • In My Control: My choices, how I react, how I spend my time.
  • Explain that focusing on what’s within their control can reduce stress and increase confidence.
• Create a Personal Circle of Control
  • Give a blank sheet of paper to draw their own Circle of Control.
  • Encourage a brainstorm and categorize items into two lists: “In My Control” and “Out of My Control.”
  • Use prompts like:
    • “What are some things you’ve worried about lately?”
    • “Which of these can you influence or change?”
• Practice Redirecting Energy
  • Help develop strategies to focus on their circle of control. For example:
    • If they’re anxious about a test (out of control: the questions; in control: how they study), encourage them to create a study schedule.
    • If they’re upset about a conflict (out of control: others’ reactions; in control: their words), role-play how they can communicate effectively.
• Incorporate Reflection and Discussion
  • After using the tool, reflect on the experience:
    • “How did it feel to focus on what you can control?”
    • “What’s one thing you can do differently next time you face a challenge?”
  • Facilitate group discussions to share insights and strategies.
• Revisit and Reinforce
  • Display the Circle of Control poster prominently and encourage referencing it regularly.
  • Incorporate the concept into daily routines by asking questions like, “What’s one thing you can focus on today that’s within your control?”

Benefits of using the tool

• Emotional Regulation: Reduces anxiety by shifting focus from uncontrollable factors to actionable steps.
• Problem-Solving: Encourages proactive thinking and decision-making.
• Self-Awareness: Helps identify strengths and areas of influence.
• Resilience: Builds a sense of empowerment and adaptability in the face of challenges.